“What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.” ~ Aristotle
The reluctance in becoming friends with anyone who you care for and share in common threads and interests in life should wane decisively when you ask of your acquaintance why they want to be or become friends even good friends perhaps.
To allow yourself a simpler view of the “potential” of friendship as though a child’s eyes may enlist a more positive and open view of the possibilities. I believe a basic fear of such a collaboration can and will be alleviated when both you and your friend(s) can admit honestly and simply – “I want to become friends, better friends because I like you and I don’t want anything from you.”
An acceptance in and feelings of trustworthiness in a true, great friendship will lift us all above where we could have ever traveled alone. For as Helen Keller once wrote – “I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.” – Cherish your true friendships and give yourself only to those who are connected with your heart, mind and spirit for all the right reasons, a mutual understanding in search of happiness.
True friendship and the allowance for a connection of souls in a such way that pervades our thoughts, feelings and desires can and will offer a better understanding of ourselves. There can be no goal in friendship for it is a process of our thinking and being via concerning ourselves with the happiness of another. This frees our minds to be more open to the pursuit of better things for our fellow man and within ourselves.
“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.” ~ Jane Austen
Acceptance of ourselves, the power and the energy associated with not adopting a practice of self rejection carries with it a life long struggle which can allow for misperceptions of what truly matters most.
“Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved.” Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.” ~ Henri J. M. Nouwen
- Perception = a physical sensation interpreted in the light of experience.
- Compassion = sympathetic “consciousness” of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.
I have few true and genuine friends, I have many friends mind you and I love them all dearly in one way or another. The connection of unique and special friends, those who you can turn to for support and converse with at any time on the deepest levels are rare. Those select few who you know deep in your heart are interested most in your happiness and wellbeing as you are in theirs are the ones we need most.
An original premise to hold dear when you are confronted with a re-examination of your many friendships, to better understand who and why people are close or want to be closer to the you and are growing and nurturing. A simple statement and understanding that tells of a person’s willingness to learn all they can about you, share in each others dreams and desires, while staying true to the core of each other’s beliefs – that is friendship in my view.